How understanding emotions can help with divorce or co-parenting
A blog drawn from our publication 'When Parents Separate:Getting it Right for the Children:A guide for parents' by Krisztina Glausius and Leezah Hertzmann. In this extract we take an overview of the process of separating and explain precisely why a range of feelings stirred up make the task of co-parenting so challenging.
Are there messages in the programme about young people, relationships and mental health?
John Fenna
Head of Marketing & Communications
Whatever your views on Love Island, it’s certainly putting relationships in the spotlight. We receive a large rise in media enquiries, asking questions about relationship issues triggered by the events of the show, during its airtime for a start.
In conversation with Kate Thompson - a couple psychoanalytic psychotherapist, faculty staff member and clinical lecturer at Tavistock Relationships, where leading training programmes in Counselling, Psychotherapy and Psychosexual Therapy are offered.
Our Couple 50+ service helping relationships in mid-life, explored in the Sunday Telegraph
The trend of couples approaching mid-life and facing challenges in their relationship has been a focus of our work since launching our Couple 50+ MOT service. And the growing appeal of the idea of ‘checking in’ with each other with some form of counselling to help ‘keep things on track’ has been picked up by the Sunday Telegraph in an interview based article in its female orientated magazine Stella.
Finding solutions for children should be the new focus says Sir Andrew McFarlane
by Hazel Wright
Trustee
The Family Court judges will have a new leader on 18th July 2018. Sir Andrew McFarlane is to be the new President, ie the leading judge for all family courts. When Sir Andrew was a barrister, his specialism was the law relating to children.
What kids ask themselves when their mums and dads split up
by Krisztina Glausius and Leezah Hertzmann, an extract from When Parents Separate: Getting it Right for the Children A Guide for Parents, Tavistock Relationships
Some people believe that it is almost impossible to help parents in conflict develop a way of collaborative parenting together. This is not our experience. We find that most parents feel that despite the anger, loss and hurt that can follow the breakdown of their relationship, they still want to do their best for their children. This blog acts not so much a ‘How to’ guide, but more a ’What to avoid and why’, we explore what is important for children involved.
Our survey finds they understand the value of good relationships for themselves and their children.
To celebrate the launch of our new parenting service Tavistock Relationships surveyed hundreds of couples with children who visited our social media pages. There were some interesting results - showing that today’s couples are acutely aware that their relationship affects their children.
We need radical approaches to supporting relationships, not criticism of social care
Andrew Balfour
CEO - Tavistock Relationships
With life expectancy in the UK increasing, and the number of people aged over 65 set to increase by 51% between now and 2030, social care systems will increasingly encounter the kinds of difficulties which relationship support services are set up to address.
Last November, we wrote about the need for reform of outdated divorce laws. Specifically we supported the proposal for so-called "no fault divorce" to be available after a period of six months' separation.
Tavistock Relationships is 70 years young this year. Here is why the work that the organisation has develped and evolved to help couples, familes and children is as relevant today as ever.
Why online therapy (or ‘Skype Counselling’) is safe secure and valuable for clients
David Smith [name changed for anonymity purposes] trained with Tavistock Relationships and has been working as a psychotherapy counsellor for over five years. He provides online psychotherapy sessions for Tavistock Relationships having received specialist training in the medium.
Head of Development & Learning, Couple Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist & Clinical Lecturer
At Tavistock Relationships, we believe that the quality of our couple relationships profoundly affects how we feel about ourselves and has material and measurable consequences for our lives and those around us, affecting the emotional, cognitive and physical development of our children. Indeed, the Early Intervention Foundation places particular emphasis on how parents communicate and how they relate to each other as key factors in good outcomes. Essentially, children desire a strong and healthy relationship with both parents.
Forcing blame on separating couples has a negative impact on the whole family process of ending a marriage
Andrew Balfour
Research published by the Nuffield Foundation in October this year shows what practitioners working with individuals and couples have long known to be the case: our divorce laws are out of date and incompatible with a modern family justice system which seeks to reduce conflict between couples who are divorcing; not amplify this – as the current law does.
How online counselling can benefit the whole family.
Eve Ashley
Couple Psychotherapist at Tavistock Relationships
The relationship we have with our parents plays a unique part in the development of each of us, and the continuity of our lives through the generations. Stories about our relationship with our parents, and the relationship they had together, begin before we were born, and will continue after we have died.