Published in Blog by Kate Thompson on January 4th 2021
To help raise awareness of the Sort It Out campaign, which aims to reduce the exposure of children to parental conflict, Kate Thompson, Head of Parenting Services at Tavistock Relationships, offers advice on dealing with family conflict.
People coming to couple therapy at Tavistock Relationships sometimes believe that healthy relationships mean no arguments, and they get increasingly worried if they’re experiencing them. All couples disagree; it is part of the process of resolving differences between two individuals in an intimate relationship.
However, research reveals that prolonged inter-parental conflict can have a damaging impact on the emotional and behavioural development of children.
This sustained conflict can lead to poor concentration, depression and anxiety. Worrying about the state of their parents’ relationship, and maybe fearing they are the cause of the unhappiness, is likely to lead to lower achievement at school.
Research reveals that prolonged inter-parental conflict can have a damaging impact on the emotional and behavioural development of children.
Aspects of unresolved conflict between parents can also haunt the forming of their own relationships.
An estimated 1.25 million children in Britain are exposed to intense and damaging inter-parental conflict. Difficult family relationships are consistently in the top three reasons why children contact ChildLine and are seen in mental health services.
The disruption and anxiety caused by the pandemic has left couples facing a new intensity, and there’s evidence that conflict in the home has risen.
At Tavistock Relationships, we work with couples, whether they are together or separated, to find ways to minimize destructive conflict, to benefit them and their children.
Here are six ideas for dealing with family conflict for couples to think about:
The Sort It Out campaign seeks to make relationship support available and free to all parents in conflict.
You can book an appointment at our main service, whcih helps with relationships and also parenting, at a variety of fees, using our unque sliding scale here.
If you live in London or the northern Home Counties, you could benefit from our free relationship and parenting programme, find out more here.
For more information about Sort It Out, go to https://tavistockrelationships.ac.uk/policy-research/appg/1334-sort-it-out-campaign
Formerly Head of Strategic Development at TR, Kate is the Project Head for Couple Therapy for Depression Training of NHS practitioners.
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10 New Street, London EC2M 4TP
Tel: 020 7380 1975
Registered Charity Number: 211058. Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology. Company number: 241618.