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Tavistock Relationships says therapy can support a good divorce

Published in Press Releases by Tavistock Relationships on January 5th 2023

Tavistock Relationships, the charity helping individuals and couples to have better relationships, always sees a rise in couples and individuals seeking relationship support in January.

This aligns with the surge in enquiries received by divorce lawyers after Christmas, and the first working Monday after the New Year being named ‘Divorce Day’ (9 January 2023).

Couples contact Tavistock Relationships seeking support to help reduce conflict and to improve their relationship quality, and in some cases for help to manage their divorce and separation.

Andrew Balfour, CEO of Tavistock Relationships, says:

“Previous research had indicated that divorce is inevitably bad for the couple and their children, but we now know that the situation is more nuanced than that. If a couple feel they have no alternative but to separate, therapy and other interventions can also help people avoid a difficult divorce.

“Divorcing couples feel a range of powerful emotions, including a sense of failure, shame, anger, hurt, guilt and loss. It’s hard to function as an adult when you feel like a hurt child. Couple therapy helps people make sense of their situation and manage their feelings of anger and hurt. Professional support can help couples who are locked together in conflict to separate in the least destructive way possible and to move on with their lives.

“A ‘good enough divorce’ with constructive outcomes for the children, as well as the adults themselves, is not a myth. I have witnessed this many times in my clinical work. However, sadly, all too often the opposite is the case: and the divorce is simply a legal punctuation point in an ongoing, destructive and acrimonious battle in which the adult partners, and their children, remain trapped for years.

“No fault divorce, which came into law in April, has provided a unique opportunity to reframe our approach to divorce with a more collaborative mind set from the get go. Traditional divorce relies on the attribution of fault of a party, amplifying the conflict which is already there and putting it at the heart of the process. This increases the negative mental health impact on the couple and any children they have, and makes it difficult for them to act in a thoughtful way.”

Throughout its long history, Tavistock Relationships has looked to form partnerships to reach more couples who might benefit from professional support. The charity is currently working with digital development company Axis12, to create e-learning materials for the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service. These resources are designed to help separated parents resolve their disagreements and agree on a parenting plan, without the need to go to court.

To find out more about couple therapy at Tavistock Relationships, go to www.tavistockrelationships.org or call 020 7380 1960.

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Notes to Editors

Tavistock Relationships provides relationship support services for couples and families, including:

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